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  Resentments

  by JeffT in

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  i first heard this when i was in rehab five years ago.

  i cant find the video they showed us on line may be just as well.

  the speaker was a priest with some funny mannerisms but he knew what he was talking about.. .

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  “Someone says something to you that you find offensive, and rather than opting for resentment, you are able to depersonalize what you've just heard and respond with kindness. You would rather be kind than right.

  The proper response is actually NO RESPONSE.

  You become the observer, rather than a participant.

  When you do not respond, and I mean inwardly, as well as outwardly, that bad attitude "someone" is trying to pass on to you, STAYS with THEM.

  You get into THEM, instead of them getting into you.

  The next time someone trys to get you upset, notice that there is a little space between what they do to you, or say to you, and your response.

  It is in that little space where YOU make the choice whether to respond or not.

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  Resentments

  by JeffT in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i first heard this when i was in rehab five years ago.

  i cant find the video they showed us on line may be just as well.

  the speaker was a priest with some funny mannerisms but he knew what he was talking about.. .

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  You either turn your resentments inward (becoming a people-pleaser) OR you take them out on others, doing unto those others whatever was done to you (becoming a bully).

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  Forgive the Watchtower!

  by sabastious in

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  i was abused by my father growing up.

  physically and emotionally.. as a entered my adult life i had next to no self esteem, in part because he didn't really attempt to help me get some because i didn't chose the career path that he dreamed for me.. 2 years ago i forgave him.

  i let go of the anger that i had for him because i knew that when it was all said and done, he did what he did and i believe that he did his best.

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  Sab,

  You got it.

  Your parents, like everyone's parents, were just victims of their parents, who were victims of their parents, and it just keeps going back.

  I brought my child up in the truth because I did not want her to have a life like mine. Of course, she didn't live my life, so how could she know that I was giving her a better life?

  What we do is try to compensate for our bad experiences in childhood by trying to "make-up" for them in our life, and the lives of our children. The problem is we tend to overcompensate and eventually become what we hate. In my case, it was my step-father. The harder I tried to NOT become him, I did become him.

  Why did that happen? It's called hate and resentment. I hated him so much, I became him. Now, I am no longer him.

  You are doing the right thing.

  Night Owl
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  Is your Intellect Pre-Enlightenment or Post-Enlightenment?

  by Terry in

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  before the age of enlightenment the earth was filled with many nations living under vastly differing beliefs about the world.. tribes, nations and empires possessed fanciful superstitious beliefs about their own importance in the big picture.. religion helped man find a place among fearful gods and demons.

  faith and belief, ritual and performance duties, helped man allay fears by.

  becoming active in appeasing the gods and shunning the evil spirits.. judaism allowed adherents a means of ridding themselves of sin (animal sacrifice) and accounting for wrongs (justice via law).. christianity removed animal sacrifice and substituted fealty to the church (catholic).

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  Terry,

  I have read some of your experiences in life. You have been through alot.

  I also see alot of resentment in your posts, but you are not the only one.

  You will find peace when you get rid of the resentments.

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  Looking back I Missed out on a lot

  by lil.lady.03 in

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  so i'm thinking back to all the things i ever wanted to do when i was little.

  and could not do because, anything i wanted to do was bad association or just bad.. when i was 4, i wanted to do gymnastics.. "no.

  you get pulled into nationalism and develop a competive spirit.".

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  lil.lady, you have a PM.

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  So what is your story MadJW

  by elderelite in

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  since you've been fingered as a troll i though i would give you a forum to tell us your story.. perhaps you could include details such as why you come to this site, how you found your way here, why you post, what cong your in, whether or not you are currently serving in some capacity.. anything you think would help us know you better.

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  He comes here to get fed.

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  Is your Intellect Pre-Enlightenment or Post-Enlightenment?

  by Terry in

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  before the age of enlightenment the earth was filled with many nations living under vastly differing beliefs about the world.. tribes, nations and empires possessed fanciful superstitious beliefs about their own importance in the big picture.. religion helped man find a place among fearful gods and demons.

  faith and belief, ritual and performance duties, helped man allay fears by.

  becoming active in appeasing the gods and shunning the evil spirits.. judaism allowed adherents a means of ridding themselves of sin (animal sacrifice) and accounting for wrongs (justice via law).. christianity removed animal sacrifice and substituted fealty to the church (catholic).

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  There are many people like Terry.

  They need to judge.

  They need to find fault.

  They need to hide their feelings of inferiority with "education".

  They do these things to keep from seeing what THEY have become.

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  Are you led by logic or emotion?

  by compound complex in

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  on a recent thread i admitted personal difficulties in the arena of critical thinking.

  logic and reason are not my strong suit, but i try.. you?.

  coco.

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  I am led by reason.

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  Anyone take depression/anxiety meds?

  by tresdecu in

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  just wondering if any ex or current "concious class" dubbers out there take anything; and if it works!

  my family is still in and with everything else going on in my life, sometimes i consider asking my doc about zolft / prosac.. thanks for any replies!.

  i should just ask 85% of my congregation-mates ... lol.

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  Maybe the problem is you get upset too easily and then you get mad at all the problems that arise from your getting upset. Then you get depressed, which is anger turned inward.

  Whether you should take medication or not, that is for you to decide, but instead of dealing with the problem, the medication just pushes the problem into the backround, but you will still have it.

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  All the accusations- and no substance....how SHOCKING!

  by theMadJW in

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  are there pretenders in our brotherhood- as in all religion- that do what is evil?.

  yes.. have we made stupid guesses about some of the prophecies, as all churches do?.

  yes.. does our "organization" make mistakes- as, you guessed it, all do?.

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  wasblind,

  Just a word of advice.

  Be careful with that anger, or you might have a heart attack, stroke, or worse.

  Night Owl